I spend a lot of time selling people on themselves.  It’s a hard sell sometimes.  My sales pitch goes something like this… Me: You should go after that precious dream.  Objection: I don’t think I have what it takes.  Me: You have everything it takes. Objection: I don’t know how. Me: You are smart and […]

The definition of brooding is constantly replaying negative events, worries, or memories in your mind without ever gaining new insight or perspective. New research shows that each time we do it, we re-activate our stress response and get upset all over again. I don’t think that most of us need to read the clinical research studies on […]

Did you know you’re allowed to want whatever the fuck you want? Even if what you want doesn’t make you “popular” or “healthier” or “better”. Even if what you want doesn’t come from a “good” or “right” place. Even if what you want isn’t what your parents, your children, your spouse, or your church wants […]

What stands between you and your goal? Obstacles. What stands between where you are now and where you want to be? Obstacles. For everything you want to have, everything you want to create, every result or outcome or goal…there are going to be obstacles. Your brain sees the obstacle as the reason to stop. That’s […]

I meet with so many people in their 40s and 50s (and beyond) who feel embarrassed that they are “still” struggling with issues that they think they should have resolved much earlier in their lives. Adding a layer of shame on top of the issue you are struggling with is not only ineffective and counterproductive, […]

Many years ago I was selected for jury duty. It was my first time. I didn’t know where to go or what to expect. When the twelve of us got into the jury room we were immediately tasked with choosing a lead juror (a spokesperson for the group). Several of the eleven other people in […]

The decisions you’ve made have created your current life. Let that sink in. Every yes is powerful.  Every no is powerful. Indecision keeps you stuck and confused. If where you are isn’t where you want to be, one decision can change everything. I had a wonderful coaching session a few weeks ago. My client was […]

A friend of mine has a business that is growing like crazy. She posted an ad on social media for a newly created position at her company. Within less than a day, she had 45 people reply with their resumé saying they were perfect for the job. She asked each applicant to upload a video […]

With Thanksgivng behind us, 2023 is a mere 29 days away. If that makes you shake your head in disbelief, you are not alone. Year after year I hear people say “I don’t know where the time went” or “How is it possible this year is almost over?” So many of us decide to wait […]

I wish I had a dollar for every time I hear someone complaining about how things “should be”. Some of the most useless and problematic stories we tell about ourselves and our lives can be given the title:  “IT’S ALL GONE TERRIBLY WRONG AND SHOULD BE DIFFERENT THAN IT IS.” We all have this idealized […]